Firstly:

If you are less than, say, 30, I am immensely flattered that you find me attractive; however, I am most likely not interested. Thank you.

Now then:
I am: 48, 6', 180# blond haired/hazel eyed, college educated, married, closeted, bisexual leaning hard toward gay, ultimately in search for a guy friend with benefits. I'm HIV-, drug/disease free, a non-smoker; mostly-toned height/weight proportional with just a little padding I'm working on getting rid of. I have some body hair, but it's mostly blonde and doesn't show up very well.

Yes, my wife knows.

UNDERSTAND THIS: I'm looking for a friend first. Benefits can, and by god will, come later in their own time -- and only if the chemistry between us seems reciprocal and right. I'm not looking for casual sex; that's what my right hand and sometimes a dildo is for. I'm not going to meet you for a hand-job or blow-job in a park or some other publicly-owned property; I'm not stupid and I'm not ruled by my penis. Sexual contact is not my first priority or immediate expectation. if this is the case with you, I'm not a good match for you; move on.

Personality-wise, I'm quiet and somewhat reserved until you get to know me (and I get to know you); but underneath that is a sly, cynical and frequently goofy sense of humor. I enjoy computers, books, photography, and music; I've been known to follow college football and hockey but don't really pay attention to professional sports. I'm an Olympics junkie every other year.

You should be: a non-smoker, discreet, drug & disease free. Height/weight proportional, whatever that means; gymgod status isn't necessary, but don't be carrying around a lot of excess weight. Preferably between the ages of 35 and 55. Intelligent. Articulate. Pragmatic. Possessed of positive, honest, and accepting self-awareness. Gently cynical. Confident. Able to see the humor in almost any situation. Reasonably physically active. Tactile -- not necessarily huggy, but able to appreciate giving and receiving touch, whether it be a casual hand on the shoulder or something more intimate. Sensuous in all aspects of the word (and all the senses). Perceptive. Caring. Honest. Loyal.

I'm remarkably attracted to facial and body hair, so shaving isn't necessary. All else is negotiable.

Internet-wise, I really get into text cybersex and cam-to-cam jacking, but I unfortunately don't get much opportunity to webcam -- if I'm looking for cam2cam, I'll say so. (cam2cam is the operative phrase there, fellas... YOU GOTTA HAVE A CAM AND TURN IT ON TO SEE MINE. )

If you see me online, give me a shout! I always enjoy chatting.

And finally... yes, I will be uploading private pictures presently. When they're up, you'll be expected to share yours to see mine.